Ways To Solve Money Problem In Your Relationship/Marriage This Season.
For those who do not have money to foot their relationship/marriag, here are tips that can provide you a sustainable relationship. Just for these rules
Marriage is one of the oldest institutions to have ever been
recognized by God as every able man and woman who is well and sane look
forward to as they grow old. But the prevailing situation in the country
is keeping many able young men and women to stay away from marital
relationship and union. So to say.
Poverty has denied a lot of couple and spouse
happiness in marital relationship as a lot of people believe that
marital relationship can never be smooth without money. That is not to
say that money is the central attraction in every relationship but it
plays a vital role in every union.
Some believe that money makes
love grow stronger while others believe otherwise. Some have even argued
that when you love a woman and care so much about her without being
able to provide for her needs physically, there is every tendency for
such a woman to look else where to find a man that will be able to meet
both and financial and physical needs as some believe that the emotional
needs is not important in this case.
Relationship becomes sweeter
when the couples have money to spend, they might not be super rich but
at least the man should be able to provide the basic necessities of life
for the wife and the entire family. The issue of money cannot be over
emphasized and under estimated. Both partners needs to handle the issue
with utmost care in order for it not to cause disagreement between the
couples in love.
Talking about disagreement in relationship it is
easier especially now that we are in festive period as the tension is
now high to shop for the family for Christmas as such caution should be
applied by couples to fight against disagreements.
At times, you
wonder why disagreement over money keeps dividing you and your partners,
especially during festive season like this. It has nearly turned your
home into a war zone. But, you and your partner can solve financial
differences amicably without any fight.
There are a few ways you could
go about solving money problems in your relationship/marriage
• Firstly,
choose a time for money discussion! It is better not to do it when you
have just finished paying some bills or when you are angry over
something. In essence, it is better to discuss when you are both
relaxed.
• Secondly, make a list of your priorities: In this, you
make list of the most important to the least important e.g. saving to
buy a house, or for your child’s education etc. The most important in
your list should be attended to first before any other thing.
•
Thirdly, avoid interruptions: don’t rush words or interrupt when your
partner is making suggestions or explaining feelings about money issues.
Give each other a chance to express your feelings. Don’t ever point
fingers over past financial problems or mistakes you might have
encountered before.
• Fourthly, if you become angry or emotional
during discussion stop and continue later: You can never communicate
effectively when you are angry or emotional. It makes communication very
difficult. The atmosphere should be calm before discussion takes place.
•
Fifthly, communicate in writing if talking out your problem leads to
conflict: express yourself in writing to your partner, how you think
money should be spent and saved.
Again, be ready for compromise:
You must make sure you and your partner comes to a compromise you are
both comfortable with and always negotiate an agreement.
Also,
don’t over power your partner if you make more money: There should be
mutual respect between the two of you regardless of who earns more
money.
Lastly, draw up a financial plan: This is an important tool
for shaping your financial future together with this you can be at
little or no risk of falling into financial risks.
How do you see this?
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