Sexual Pleasure After Female Genital Mutilation.
A female NOB reader asked if she can still have sexual pleasures after being circumcised. I gave a few opinions on what she ought to know. Same goes out to ladies who do not know what to do or who to seek for counseling.
Most women with FGM believe they cannot have any sexual pleasure
anymore. However In infibulated women, some erectile structures
fundamental for orgasm have not been excised. Cultural influence can
change the perception of pleasure, as well as social acceptance.
Research
shows that almost 86%, of women affected by different types of FGM,
reported an orgasm, always 69.23%; 58 mutilated young women reported
orgasm in 91.43%.
After defibulation 14 out of 15 infibulated women reported orgasm.
Every
woman has the right to have sexual health and to feel sexual pleasure
for full psychophysical well-being of the person. FGM/C women with
sexual dysfunctions can and must be cured; they have the right to have
an appropriate sexual therapy.
So viewers its still possible for circumcised ladies to enjoy sexual pleasures if they monitor their sexual health correctly and undergo some certain treatments.
I haven’t been with a
man in so long, that I hardly remember what it feels like anymore.
Mostly for two reasons; One, I was brought up in a kind of way. I have
to really be into someone before I can share my body with them, and I
haven’t met anyone special in a long while, so I’ve been riding solo. It
makes me very sad sometimes…
Secondly, I’ve never really enjoyed sex. And I blame it on the fact that
I was circumcised. Some things were cut off, so there’s not much
sensation down there. I mean, I enjoyed intimacy and when the tongue was
at work, but penetration was a different case. Half the time, I
couldn’t wait for him to get off me. (I can’t believe I’m writing all
these on the Internet). So usually, I tell myself why seek something you
don’t particularly enjoy? What’s the point really? So I’ve basically
just stayed away.
But lately I have been feeling somehow and I think it’s time to get my
groove back. I want to feel like a woman again, so I’ve decided to find a
man before the end of the year. But I don’t want to be turned off sex
again. As a circumcised woman, how can I make myself enjoy sex? Does
circumcision even have anything to do with it? That’s always been my
belief because other circumcised women I’ve spoken with say they don’t
enjoy sex either… at least not as much as women who were not
circumcised.
After she posted such controversial piece, she got a lot of reviews and
comments, some proffering solutions to her problem, others agreeing with
her opinion. Amongst them was an old acquaintance that got heed of her
predicament and decided to offer a ‘friendly’ advice. Her advice: “My
dear, if you don’t enjoy vaginal sex why don’t you try anal sex?” Of
course, that ended their friendship as Linda took offence in such an
obscure advice wondering why she would have to go through pain to attain
pleasure.
A Parent’s Pride
Female Circumcision, otherwise known as female genital mutilation,
involves the cutting-off of the clitoris, the most sensitive part of the
female orifice. In the ancient days, circumcision was perceived to be a
sign of comportment when it came to promiscuity. It was seen as a sure
cure for sexual promiscuity among women. Then it was believed that
female genital mutilation supposedly helped to ward off certain kinds of
diseases in women.
Though considered as barbaric, the hygienic potentials of female
circumcision commend it to successive generations of families save for,
of course, the many superstitious beliefs such as women who are not
circumcised make love to spirits in their sleep who, in turn, cause
unhealthy appetite for sexual intercourse. It is also said that such
women give birth to Ogbanje (Abiku).
With such unwholesome tales, out of fear and possible stigmatization,
most mothers make sure that they circumcised their daughters. It was
even perceived that men had their wives put on chastity belts worn
around their private part before they left for the farm so that their
wives do not seek other men. As time progressed, parents particularly
took pride in this act. They couldn’t help the respect they attained
from friends and foes at the assertion that their daughter had been
circumcised oblivious to the possible detrimental effects it could pose
to the girl child. All they knew at that time was that they could flaunt
the fact that their daughter wouldn’t run around demanding for sexual
intercourse.
A Societal Advantage and Disadvantage
Being female and circumcised isn’t as mandatory as that of the male
which was ordained by God, but it is done to arrest the interest and
arousal for sex by the womenfolk i.e. promiscuity and to some, avoid
giving birth to children, who would live for short periods of time, die
and come back to their mothers’ wombs only to be born and continue the
cycle, bringing grief and pain to the family.
The process of female genital mutilation, called clitoridectomy in
modern medicine, involves the instrument of the art used to perform this
inspires much awe with its crudity and savage look. A hard metal
carving knife is usually used in cutting the clitoris, whereupon herbal
concoctions are used to stop blood flow and ameliorate the excruciating
pains. As the baby cries, the mother takes pleasure in the feeling that,
at least, she has a normal woman made ready for her husband’s ecstasy.
To further speed up the healing process, palm oil is applied to the
wound intermittently using a feather to spread the oil along the cut
edges of the former position occupied by the clitoris.
The parents are satisfied knowing that their daughter won’t be prone to
sexual demands and would abhor or prevent them from bringing shame to
the family. It was their reason then and it still is their reason now,
although most doctors seem to reveal that their only obligation to
perform the operation is to prove that modern science can be a lot safer
than traditional science.
However, having involved the cutting off of the most needed sexual
organ, a girl is likely not to ever get sexually aroused or ever feel or
have an orgasm. This affects her in her early stages in life when she
becomes sexually active and most likely in marriage as even though the
probability of her being faithful is high, it could affect the sexual
relationship between her and her spouse.
Apparently, the parents wish has indeed being granted but has in turn
marred a lady’s sexual life, which undeniably is a gift from God in her
marriage. Most cases of such sexual instability lead to the annulment of
the marriage as they are perceived by their spouse to be frigid in bed
and the law allows for such reason for annulment. While most leads to
the sought for alternative attainment of pleasure hence lesbianism. Some
resort to the opposite sex for intercourse claiming it’s less demanding
while others rather go for, though not healthy, anal sex like Linda’s
‘friend’ advised.
There is, however, no cure for such predicament except a lady finds one
who truly loves her and is willing to forfeit whatever plight she might
have. This doesn’t affect childbirth or pregnancy so the marriage will
indeed be fruitful. Her spouse should work towards discovering other
spots on her body that can ignite her sexual feeling again as anything
from a simple touch can cause an arousal. But this demands patience and a
lot of time and love.
NB: If you need to talk to a doctor concerning this, please mail
dearsisiwendy@gmail.com
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haven’t been with a
man in so long, that I hardly remember what it feels like anymore.
Mostly for two reasons; One, I was brought up in a kind of way. I have
to really be into someone before I can share my body with them, and I
haven’t met anyone special in a long while, so I’ve been riding solo. It
makes me very sad sometimes…
Secondly, I’ve never really enjoyed sex. And I blame it on the fact that
I was circumcised. Some things were cut off, so there’s not much
sensation down there. I mean, I enjoyed intimacy and when the tongue was
at work, but penetration was a different case. Half the time, I
couldn’t wait for him to get off me. (I can’t believe I’m writing all
these on the Internet). So usually, I tell myself why seek something you
don’t particularly enjoy? What’s the point really? So I’ve basically
just stayed away.
But lately I have been feeling somehow and I think it’s time to get my
groove back. I want to feel like a woman again, so I’ve decided to find a
man before the end of the year. But I don’t want to be turned off sex
again. As a circumcised woman, how can I make myself enjoy sex? Does
circumcision even have anything to do with it? That’s always been my
belief because other circumcised women I’ve spoken with say they don’t
enjoy sex either… at least not as much as women who were not
circumcised.
After she posted such controversial piece, she got a lot of reviews and
comments, some proffering solutions to her problem, others agreeing with
her opinion. Amongst them was an old acquaintance that got heed of her
predicament and decided to offer a ‘friendly’ advice. Her advice: “My
dear, if you don’t enjoy vaginal sex why don’t you try anal sex?” Of
course, that ended their friendship as Linda took offence in such an
obscure advice wondering why she would have to go through pain to attain
pleasure.
A Parent’s Pride
Female Circumcision, otherwise known as female genital mutilation,
involves the cutting-off of the clitoris, the most sensitive part of the
female orifice. In the ancient days, circumcision was perceived to be a
sign of comportment when it came to promiscuity. It was seen as a sure
cure for sexual promiscuity among women. Then it was believed that
female genital mutilation supposedly helped to ward off certain kinds of
diseases in women.
Though considered as barbaric, the hygienic potentials of female
circumcision commend it to successive generations of families save for,
of course, the many superstitious beliefs such as women who are not
circumcised make love to spirits in their sleep who, in turn, cause
unhealthy appetite for sexual intercourse. It is also said that such
women give birth to Ogbanje (Abiku).
With such unwholesome tales, out of fear and possible stigmatization,
most mothers make sure that they circumcised their daughters. It was
even perceived that men had their wives put on chastity belts worn
around their private part before they left for the farm so that their
wives do not seek other men. As time progressed, parents particularly
took pride in this act. They couldn’t help the respect they attained
from friends and foes at the assertion that their daughter had been
circumcised oblivious to the possible detrimental effects it could pose
to the girl child. All they knew at that time was that they could flaunt
the fact that their daughter wouldn’t run around demanding for sexual
intercourse.
A Societal Advantage and Disadvantage
Being female and circumcised isn’t as mandatory as that of the male
which was ordained by God, but it is done to arrest the interest and
arousal for sex by the womenfolk i.e. promiscuity and to some, avoid
giving birth to children, who would live for short periods of time, die
and come back to their mothers’ wombs only to be born and continue the
cycle, bringing grief and pain to the family.
The process of female genital mutilation, called clitoridectomy in
modern medicine, involves the instrument of the art used to perform this
inspires much awe with its crudity and savage look. A hard metal
carving knife is usually used in cutting the clitoris, whereupon herbal
concoctions are used to stop blood flow and ameliorate the excruciating
pains. As the baby cries, the mother takes pleasure in the feeling that,
at least, she has a normal woman made ready for her husband’s ecstasy.
To further speed up the healing process, palm oil is applied to the
wound intermittently using a feather to spread the oil along the cut
edges of the former position occupied by the clitoris.
The parents are satisfied knowing that their daughter won’t be prone to
sexual demands and would abhor or prevent them from bringing shame to
the family. It was their reason then and it still is their reason now,
although most doctors seem to reveal that their only obligation to
perform the operation is to prove that modern science can be a lot safer
than traditional science.
However, having involved the cutting off of the most needed sexual
organ, a girl is likely not to ever get sexually aroused or ever feel or
have an orgasm. This affects her in her early stages in life when she
becomes sexually active and most likely in marriage as even though the
probability of her being faithful is high, it could affect the sexual
relationship between her and her spouse.
Apparently, the parents wish has indeed being granted but has in turn
marred a lady’s sexual life, which undeniably is a gift from God in her
marriage. Most cases of such sexual instability lead to the annulment of
the marriage as they are perceived by their spouse to be frigid in bed
and the law allows for such reason for annulment. While most leads to
the sought for alternative attainment of pleasure hence lesbianism. Some
resort to the opposite sex for intercourse claiming it’s less demanding
while others rather go for, though not healthy, anal sex like Linda’s
‘friend’ advised.
There is, however, no cure for such predicament except a lady finds one
who truly loves her and is willing to forfeit whatever plight she might
have. This doesn’t affect childbirth or pregnancy so the marriage will
indeed be fruitful. Her spouse should work towards discovering other
spots on her body that can ignite her sexual feeling again as anything
from a simple touch can cause an arousal. But this demands patience and a
lot of time and love.
NB: If you need to talk to a doctor concerning this, please mail
dearsisiwendy@gmail.com
Read more at: https://www.thecable.ng/can-circumcised-woman-enjoy-sex-not
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haven’t been with a
man in so long, that I hardly remember what it feels like anymore.
Mostly for two reasons; One, I was brought up in a kind of way. I have
to really be into someone before I can share my body with them, and I
haven’t met anyone special in a long while, so I’ve been riding solo. It
makes me very sad sometimes…
Secondly, I’ve never really enjoyed sex. And I blame it on the fact that
I was circumcised. Some things were cut off, so there’s not much
sensation down there. I mean, I enjoyed intimacy and when the tongue was
at work, but penetration was a different case. Half the time, I
couldn’t wait for him to get off me. (I can’t believe I’m writing all
these on the Internet). So usually, I tell myself why seek something you
don’t particularly enjoy? What’s the point really? So I’ve basically
just stayed away.
But lately I have been feeling somehow and I think it’s time to get my
groove back. I want to feel like a woman again, so I’ve decided to find a
man before the end of the year. But I don’t want to be turned off sex
again. As a circumcised woman, how can I make myself enjoy sex? Does
circumcision even have anything to do with it? That’s always been my
belief because other circumcised women I’ve spoken with say they don’t
enjoy sex either… at least not as much as women who were not
circumcised.
After she posted such controversial piece, she got a lot of reviews and
comments, some proffering solutions to her problem, others agreeing with
her opinion. Amongst them was an old acquaintance that got heed of her
predicament and decided to offer a ‘friendly’ advice. Her advice: “My
dear, if you don’t enjoy vaginal sex why don’t you try anal sex?” Of
course, that ended their friendship as Linda took offence in such an
obscure advice wondering why she would have to go through pain to attain
pleasure.
A Parent’s Pride
Female Circumcision, otherwise known as female genital mutilation,
involves the cutting-off of the clitoris, the most sensitive part of the
female orifice. In the ancient days, circumcision was perceived to be a
sign of comportment when it came to promiscuity. It was seen as a sure
cure for sexual promiscuity among women. Then it was believed that
female genital mutilation supposedly helped to ward off certain kinds of
diseases in women.
Though considered as barbaric, the hygienic potentials of female
circumcision commend it to successive generations of families save for,
of course, the many superstitious beliefs such as women who are not
circumcised make love to spirits in their sleep who, in turn, cause
unhealthy appetite for sexual intercourse. It is also said that such
women give birth to Ogbanje (Abiku).
With such unwholesome tales, out of fear and possible stigmatization,
most mothers make sure that they circumcised their daughters. It was
even perceived that men had their wives put on chastity belts worn
around their private part before they left for the farm so that their
wives do not seek other men. As time progressed, parents particularly
took pride in this act. They couldn’t help the respect they attained
from friends and foes at the assertion that their daughter had been
circumcised oblivious to the possible detrimental effects it could pose
to the girl child. All they knew at that time was that they could flaunt
the fact that their daughter wouldn’t run around demanding for sexual
intercourse.
A Societal Advantage and Disadvantage
Being female and circumcised isn’t as mandatory as that of the male
which was ordained by God, but it is done to arrest the interest and
arousal for sex by the womenfolk i.e. promiscuity and to some, avoid
giving birth to children, who would live for short periods of time, die
and come back to their mothers’ wombs only to be born and continue the
cycle, bringing grief and pain to the family.
The process of female genital mutilation, called clitoridectomy in
modern medicine, involves the instrument of the art used to perform this
inspires much awe with its crudity and savage look. A hard metal
carving knife is usually used in cutting the clitoris, whereupon herbal
concoctions are used to stop blood flow and ameliorate the excruciating
pains. As the baby cries, the mother takes pleasure in the feeling that,
at least, she has a normal woman made ready for her husband’s ecstasy.
To further speed up the healing process, palm oil is applied to the
wound intermittently using a feather to spread the oil along the cut
edges of the former position occupied by the clitoris.
The parents are satisfied knowing that their daughter won’t be prone to
sexual demands and would abhor or prevent them from bringing shame to
the family. It was their reason then and it still is their reason now,
although most doctors seem to reveal that their only obligation to
perform the operation is to prove that modern science can be a lot safer
than traditional science.
However, having involved the cutting off of the most needed sexual
organ, a girl is likely not to ever get sexually aroused or ever feel or
have an orgasm. This affects her in her early stages in life when she
becomes sexually active and most likely in marriage as even though the
probability of her being faithful is high, it could affect the sexual
relationship between her and her spouse.
Apparently, the parents wish has indeed being granted but has in turn
marred a lady’s sexual life, which undeniably is a gift from God in her
marriage. Most cases of such sexual instability lead to the annulment of
the marriage as they are perceived by their spouse to be frigid in bed
and the law allows for such reason for annulment. While most leads to
the sought for alternative attainment of pleasure hence lesbianism. Some
resort to the opposite sex for intercourse claiming it’s less demanding
while others rather go for, though not healthy, anal sex like Linda’s
‘friend’ advised.
There is, however, no cure for such predicament except a lady finds one
who truly loves her and is willing to forfeit whatever plight she might
have. This doesn’t affect childbirth or pregnancy so the marriage will
indeed be fruitful. Her spouse should work towards discovering other
spots on her body that can ignite her sexual feeling again as anything
from a simple touch can cause an arousal. But this demands patience and a
lot of time and love.
NB: If you need to talk to a doctor concerning this, please mail
dearsisiwendy@gmail.com
Read more at: https://www.thecable.ng/can-circumcised-woman-enjoy-sex-not
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