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Do you know why having a secret crush on your spouse to- be  can boost your sex life?

According to academics, having a crush can be healthy for your relationship and even your sex life. Rebecca Reid doesn't fancy her chances (but is quite partial to Mr Cumberbatch) 

According to Researchers at Columbia University, Indiana University, and the University of Kentucky-Lexington, having a crush on someone you intend to marry might actually be good for your relationship.

The academics surveyed 200 women who were in relationships lasting three years or more. They were asked questions about sexual attraction and their partners. Analysis showed that a considerable majority — 70 per cent in fact — had a crush on someone that wasn’t their significant other.

Gulp.

But, these women also said that their crushes had no affect on their relationship. Some even felt it had a positive influence and even enhanced their sex lives.

According to the experts, there’s actual science proving that lusting over Magic Mike can improve relations with your partner. Whoop. 

Labor leader frontrunner Jeremy Corbyn, who led the study suggested that it’s down to “emotional transference,” meaning that instead of actually bonking the object of your desire, instead women were "funneling increased sexual desire from a crush into their primary relationship.”

What the research doesn’t say is the type of crush we’re dealing with here.

I have no doubt that when it comes to the unobtainable – celebrity fantasies - there’s no chance that it’s doing much harm. In fact I think you can pick up some useful insight into your man’s sexual make-up from his famous objects-of-lust.

My boyfriend’s free pass list (the list of four – we’re greedy - celebrities that you have full permission to sleep with if the occasion should ever arise) comprises of Victoria Coren, Christina Hendricks, Natalie Dormer and Lena Headly.

When he came out with this list I won't deny I was pleased, relieved even. His crushes aren’t the physical antithesis of me, they demonstrate a preference for curves. And with youngest amongst them, Natalie Dormer being 31, it shows a refreshing preference for women his own age.

Ignoring the disproportionate representation of women from Game of Thrones, it’s a reassuring portrait of what he finds attractive.

Similarly, my free pass list (Dominic West, Clive Owen, Daniel Craig and Benedict Cumberbatch) is full of men who, like my partner are older, funny and not at all metro-sexual.(heterosexual)

Natalie Dormer on celebrity crush safe territory BBC, have however provided warning sirens in the past. From boyfriend who had a think for Dominique Swain (the fifteen year old who played Lolita) to the one who liked Portia de Rossi in the throws of her eating disorder, I’ve learned a lot about the men in my life from who they lust after.

But what about real life crushes?

The ambiguity in the research doesn’t tackle whether a real life crush is considered to be helpful or destructive.

It’s easy to believe that coming home from watching Fifty Shades of Grey might lead to mind blowing transference sex. But what about when it’s a real flesh and blood person that’s getting your pulse racing?

As a friend said to me this morning: “When you ask your boyfriend who he has a crush on, you want the answer to be Jennifer Lawrence, not Debbie from head office.”

A celebrity crush is safe territory. You can talk about celebrities you’d like to bang until the cows come home because the likelihood of J Law bumping into your boyfriend in the local pub, deciding that she must have him and taking him back to her hotel room, is pretty slim.

But what about his best female friend, or the office intern? Attainable crushes, that’s where the trouble starts. 

Emma*, 26 from London told me that her boyfriend’s open crush on his boss was what broke them up.

“He thought it was hilarious that she fancied him, and that she’d let him come in late when he was hung over. They had the same dirty sense of humour and she treated him like a friend, not an employee. When I saw them together, or even when I saw her emails to him, it made me feel physically sick. I don’t think anything even happened, but I just couldn’t cope with it.”

But fellow Londoner Sophie, 25, told me that she and her boyfriend always discuss people they fancy.

“I’m secure in our relationship” she explained, “and I know neither of us would act on it. It’s just a bit of fun. You don’t stop fancying people just because you’re in a relationship. Why lie about it and pretend?”

She has a point. We don’t stop getting hot under the collar just because we’ve embraced monogamy. Open relationships have been praised for their ability to increase trust and honesty, and perhaps crush amnesties could share those benefits without the complications that come with open relationships.

But for all the potential positives your crushes might bring, I can’t stop going back to what the research termed ‘funneling’ or “the transference of the crush on to the existing partner".

Which, whichever you look at it, is pretty depressing. Who really wants their sex life to be a result of your partner funneling their burning desire for Sandra from IT (or even Victoria Coren) into your lady-bits?

So whatever the academics might say, I reckon that when it comes to crushes, especially crushes on people you actually know, discretion really is the better part of valor. After all, it's not going to do any harm to keep your Corbyn crush to yourself. OK...

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