How To Build A Healthy Relationship (Introduction)

Today, we’re going to be discussing dating, relationship, sex, bridals and marriage

First of all we need to know what we are going into, defining yourself and knowing what you want when going for a relationship. There are tips to be considered.

There are things you need to consider before going into a relationship.

Compromise; You need to compromise yourself which is very important in a relationship. If one or both of you are not willing to do that you don’t want to do, once in a while things are not going to work fine between the both of you. For instance if the opposite sex is a very stubborn person, compromising can be really hard for him/her  but self realization says it all so as to compromise if you want to have a good relationship.

One thing is so unique to everyone, is that you can’t forget about yourself. There will be a lot of times where you need to compromise but that doesn’t mean you need to compromise all the time . Your opposite sex has to also. You don’t always displease yourself to please your spouse as this will give room for disregard. You need to find balance between what’s right for you and what right for your relationship

Another thing to consider is to take things slow. Some people may disagree with this. If you want to have a good relationship, you should be at the pace of taking things slow. Some people get so caught up in their feelings that they rush everything. I’m not just talking about having sex , I’m also talking about ‘ I love you’ or “I want to meet your  entire family”. And making big decisions based on each other.  I realize taking things slow make the relationship more interesting and also keeps you both from getting bored.

There’s no big deal if your opposite sex calls someone else cute. For instance, saying you’ll always come close to murdering your spouse if he/she says if he/she dared to say he thought another girl or maybe a celebrity was hot. It was kind of terrible. Now that the opposite sex s older, he/she can totally him calling another girl cute or noticing another girl’s looks, really isn’t that bad . We’re all human and can’t expect your boyfriend not to think other girls are not attractive. If you don’t become okay with that, it means you’re not confident in yourself and its not going to take a toll in your relationship. Don’t take it so personally if he/she says their opposite sex is cute, he/she is not saying you’re not cute or that he/she wants to be with the opposite sex.

You have to pick and choose your battles. For instance if you’re a very stubborn person, sometimes your instincts is to fight over everything in order to always get your way. If you’re this way too, beware .It won’t in a relationship. Unless you want to spend all of your time fighting, you need to learn to pick and choose your battles. If he/she does something that only slightly annoys you, try to ignore it. If he/she REALLY hurts you, obviously, don’t ignore it.

Sometimes you’ll feel bored and restless. Even in the happiest relationships. you’ll sometimes feel a little bored and restless when it turns out to belong when you were in a relationship. Even if you can’t imagine live without your loved one you will sometimes wonder why it’s like to be single. You’ll even miss it a little. It’s okay!  You don’t need to feel horrible or guilty about that. It happens. It's not bad when you feel that once in a while, it makes you want the person more and its totally normal to feel that. But it doesn’t happen all the time.

Another thing you should consider is to meet people who are experts or who have experienced or had one relationship related issues in their past live. You and your spouse could also go for counseling that could help them build a better relationship.  As a lady, you need not to get rid of your girl friends altogether. You need your friends no matter how happy you and your boyfriend are. Make time for your girls friendly weekly, monthly or quarterly. It’s good to do that because they give (friends) to vent and just relax. It will be a big mistake when you do away with your friends .it will completely put you on a lonely mood and dependent on your opposite sex and you’ feel like a loser. If he/she is not around you’ll find yourself doing nothing and as a result he/she would always give each other a hug to always be with each other. Don’t do this to yourself.  He/she might use it against you later.

Date nights are important. Don’t get yourself too engaged in watching TV and eating snacks every single night. You guys should hangout. You need to have date nights at least once a week where you do something fun and different. Your date nights don’t have to be complicated. Sometime go to the movies, sometimes, just a new restaurant and sometimes something more exciting, like skiing for the day or taking a weekend vacay! Just get out there!